I had a discussion about the system being wrong and conspiracy theories and all that crap, after which I gave it some more thought, and it made me wonder a few things.
Just how bad is this system failing? What was this system meant to do anyway? Yes, people are suffering, but isn’t it up to ourselves to crawl out of the victim role, take responsibility and end our own suffering?
Only a few weeks ago I felt like the whole world was against me. I felt misunderstood. I felt like I was on my own. I somehow could not do what was expected of me, which resulted in me having to quit school, getting kicked out by my mom, being taken in by a really kind lady, only to get kicked out by her as well because I couldn’t live up to her expectations. So, to put it more clearly, because I was unable to live up to certain expectations, I was unable to make use of the system like everybody else does.
What if I didn’t have this stupid disorder called ADHD? What if I was able to function like a “normal person”? I would have finished school long ago, and would probably be working at a job I enjoy by now. Would I still have felt like the system failed me? Probably not.
So, in my current situation, is it the system that is failing me, or am I failing to make use of the system?
Sure, there’s many flaws in this system. I’d love to have a simple job at a store, but due to my age I’m way too expensive, so stores look for younger people to work for them, and I can’t get a job anywhere. I volunteer at a daycare for elderly people with dementia, but the work I’m doing for free now used to be done by others for a monthly salary. They just can’t afford paying for this work anymore. For some reason the money is disappearing, and since you need money in this system if you want to do anything, we’re getting more limits and less possibilities every day.
I don’t know why the money is disappearing. I don’t know how exactly the system is failing. What I do know, is that the system is still working for some people. And the people that don’t fit in this system don’t have to participate. There are other ways. Living off the grid is one example. Settling with what you have and being grateful for it is another. Or you could figure out a whole new system and find people that want to coöperate with you, create a whole new kind of society and live together that way. There’s lots of things you can do when this system doesn’t work for you.
As for me, well, I don’t think I got any right to complain. Not anymore. When I got kicked out by my mother, the system offered me three days of shelter. Only three days of shelter? No, three whole days of shelter that allowed me to call around and arrange something for myself while not having to worry about where to sleep for the next three days. Which helped me a lot. From there on my friends took over. With the help of my friends I managed to get by on my own, without the support of the system. Well, no, that’s not entirely true. Since I do this homeschool thing, I can get scholar ship. And since I get scholar ship, I can pay my rent and feed my belly every day. So yes, the system does support me. It provides the means I need to survive.
And that’s really all that the system ought to do, isn’t it? Providing the means to survive. Thriving is something we have to do for ourselves.
And some people seem to forget that we are the ones who uphold the system. So if we want to see some changes, we’re the ones who have to make it happen. And the system still offers a lot of ways to do so.
I think people need to quit wining. As Puppetji said: “Complaining only perpetuates that which you focus on, creating more and more things to complain about. […] If you have nothing good to say, then please, be of service and shut the fuck up!”